Thursday, March 25, 2010

Minarets and the Future of Europe and the World

Minarets and the Future of Europe and the World

December 3rd, 2009

Rabbi Gary S. Creditor

 

For me Switzerland is more than a picturesque setting for "The Sound of Music." It is more than the scenic setting of the Alps. It is the place that declared its neutrality on the eve of World War II and did the most to keep the Jews of Europe, fleeing for their lives, out of their country. There are many stories of how Jews were kept out and put out of Switzerland in those terrible and evil days. Predominantly, there was no sympathy, no mercy, no "love your neighbor" yodeling around the mountains. Therefore it should come as no surprise that Switzerland is the first – who knows what and where comes next – country to constitutionally ban the building of minarets. While their Federal Assembly recommended 129 to 50 to reject this initiative, 57.5% of the participating voters and 22 of the 26 cantons approved the initiative which now becomes Swiss law.

 

What is going on here?

Should we care?

What's it all about?

 

What is a minaret? "The word comes from the Arabic manara which means lighthouse. It is the distinctive architectural feature of Islamic mosques. They are generally tall spires with onion-shaped or conical crowns, usually either free standing or taller than any associated support structure. As well as providing a visual cue to a Muslim community, the main function of the minaret is to provide a vantage point from which the call to prayer is made." [Wikopedia].

 

Perhaps the most critical issue here is that the minaret serves the mosque just as the giant spires and crosses indicate the presence of a church.  In our and Beth Ahabah's majestic synagogues, there is no specific visual piece dominating one's vision that proclaims the synagogues' presence, nor our communities' existence. But Christianity and Islam, Church and Mosque are perched on the edge of the abyss. They once were locked in mortal combat during the days of the Crusades. Islam in its heyday invaded the European continent. In our powerlessness of the exile we could not challenge the Church or the Mosque. The Cross and the Crescent were dominant. Only with the Holocaust does the Church realize what it did to the synagogue. Only with the birth of the State of Israel does the Magen David and Crescent join in conflict.

 

The questions facing all parts of the world are strike to the core of civilization.

 

Can a society, a religion, set aside original components that demand dominance and domination and instead adopt a posture of co-operation and collaboration with another without risk to is own existence?

 

Can a society, a country accept into its midst significant numbers of people that are not like them and maintain their character and essential nature?

 

Is xenophobia natural to the human condition?

            As Americans, we know who flew the planes on 9/11.

            As Jews, we know who were the suicide bombers of the buses in Jerusalem.

            How do we look upon our fellow Muslim citizens of greater Richmond?

                        Do I fear them?

                        Can I love them?

                        Are we friends or foes, or is there some neutral, creative,

                                    quiet common ground wherein to make a new world?

 

Is one society able to accept the mores that are very different than theirs of another group, in a "live and let live" world?

 

What accommodations is an Eastern Religion ready to make to welcomed into the Western environment?

 

Can we live together without killing each other, or dreaming to kill each other?

Can we write a new chapter onto our ancient stories, even if we have to make significant changes?

 

As Jews who saw our synagogues burned by Christians,

As Jews who saw the height of our synagogues suppressed by Muslims,

            We must condemn the vote in Switzerland, and are not silent.

            The minaret, the cross and the Magen David should be able to loyally,

            faithfully, authentically proclaim the existence of their communities, and,

            to borrow a phrase from George Washington,

                                                                        "and none shall make them afraid."

            We remember the mantra of not protesting until it was too late and there was no one left to protest. We protest most vehemently!

 

We bring to the entire world the lesson from our Torah from last week's sedra of Jacob wrestling with an angel. The Rabbis themselves struggle with who this is. They say that Jacob was perhaps wrestling with his inner self. He had his own demons to exorcise. As all three faiths look back to our patriarchs, I recommend their leaders, to the Swiss, to Islam and to Christianity, to consider this understanding. They need to struggle with their inner selves. They need to remove from their hearts the evil they would do to others, the evil chapters of past histories.

 

I am not naïve nor blinded by wistful thinking. It is wishful thinking, the heartfelt desire, the deep dream, that people will desire and find the path to peace.

                                                                                                Shabbat Shalom

 

“The Voice is the Voice of Jacob But the Hands Are the Hands of Esau”

"The Voice is the Voice of Jacob But the Hands Are the Hands of Esau"

November 20th, 2009

Rabbi Gary S. Creditor

 

The verse from this week's parsha of Toldot, "The Voice is the Voice of Jacob but the Hands Are the Hands of Esau" indicate the duplicity of Jacob towards his father Isaac to surreptitiously receive the blessing of the first born instead of his brother Esau, who was the true first born. It is a complicated sedra, and reading it can and should leave us ill-at- ease with all three main characters, Rebecca, Isaac and Jacob. While I was conditioned to see Esau as the "bad guy" in the Torah, in reading this sedra is particular, Esau is the one which attracts my sympathy. With all that said, the verse uttered by Isaac with his son standing before him, echoes through history as signifying a person being two-faced. I wish to use this verse in a most serious, delicate and crucial context.

 

Regarding Reverend Pat Robertson, at least everyone knows where he stands on any given issue. He is the voice of the ultra-conservative political spectrum as well as a voice expressing Christianity's response and manipulation of immediate pressing issues, social and political. While some in the Jewish world are willing to embrace ultra conservative Christian leaders when their views on Israel dovetail with ultra nationalistic Jewish views, I would personally reject both these and those. Both "ultra"s lead to destruction. And I would be particularly leery and exceedingly watchful of politicians who don't understand the difference and repudiate both these and those.

 

We are all horrified by the shootings at Fort Hood, Texas that happened two weeks ago. Whenever such terrible events occur I double clutch my kishkes, first for the terrible event itself, and secondly, waiting for the name of the perpetrator(s). When the name Maj. Nidal M. Hasan was mentioned I knew that many terrible things would be said about Arabs/Muslims, their place in our country and the world view about Islam. As Jews and as American, we should not, must not be silent.

 

On his 700 Club, Reverend Pat Robertson said the following:

"Islam is a violent – I was going to say religion – but it is not a religion. It's a political system. It's a violent political system bent on the overthrow of governments of the world and world domination.

 

"They talk about infidels and all this. But the truth is, that's what the game is. You're dealing with not a religion. You're dealing with a political system. And I think you should treat it as such and treat its adherents as such. As we would members of the Communist Party and members of some Fascist group."

 

I condemn Reverend Robertson for his remarks. The definition of Islam as well as Judaism and Christianity does not yield to simplification. We talk about Israel as a "Jewish State." Christianity made the Roman Empire into "The Holy Roman Empire." Islam has "the Ummah." In particular Christianity does not have clean hands. Its representatives decimated the Native Americans in North, South and Central Americas, never mind its bloody trail in Africa. It led several very bloody Crusades against Muslims before its adherents perpetrated the Holocaust on us. Judaism, at least in its earlier history also has bloody hands. The conquest of Canaan and the disposition of its peoples is well recorded with people rejoicing with David having killed by the thousands and tens of thousands. Even the self defense against thousands of missiles from Gazaand previously from Lebanon shows the difficulty of doing so among large number of civilians. There is an old expression: "People who live in glass houses don't throw stones." Everyone lives in glass houses. No one should throw stones at the other.

 

I condemn Reverend Robertson for his remarks.  No segment of American society should be tarred and feathered because of one its adherents has committed a crime. Should American Jewry have been so tarred when Goldstein perpetrated the massacre in the Tomb of the Patriarchs in Hebron? Are we all to blame for the sins of Bernard Madoff? Has not Robertson learned anything from the witch hunts conducted in the early 1950's looking for a "Commie" under every rock? Muslims, Jews and Christians died in the World Trade Towers catastrophe. Particularly because of his besmirching Muslim Americans with one brush stroke, we, from our own Jewish experience, must condemn him and his words and join with like minded Americans in demanding an apology and retraction. We know to where calling names leads. Words are not empty. They create hate. As Jews, because of the values of our Judaism we must condemn hate in any form.

 

I condemn Reverend Robertson for his remarks and want to hear equal words of condemnation from governor elect McDonnell.When then candidate Obama was linked to his former minister Jeremiah Wright, every one, Robertson and republicans included, jumped on the bandwagon to pressure him to denounce Wright.  $25,000 is not paltry sum in campaign donations. Does it by silence? Or will the governor elect, with a sizeable Muslim American population speak the truth?

 

Particularly one who has advocated for, lived in and has a daughter as a permanent Israeli citizen, do not take lightly nor casually the multi-dimensional geopolitical, religious, and economic dynamics that bedevil the world. There is nothing simple about it. But when I shop in the grocery store, in the malls, walk down Carytown and see men and women in their authentic garb speaking in their native language, I will not look at them as threats to my existence. I will look at them as fellow Americans. I want them to see my kipah and hear my Hebrew. I want us all to salute the flag and sing the anthem. If we can not do it in this country, then the world is doomed. As Jews, we must make a difference and raise our voices, to quote my favorite hero, Superman, "for truth, justice and the American way."

 

Shabbat Shalom.


Israel Is A Miracle

Israel Is A Miracle

Rosh HaShanah Day II, 5770

September 20th, 2009

Rabbi Gary S. Creditor

 

Medinat Yisrael, the State of Israel is a "nas," is a miracle. Every time I fly over the coastline of Tel Aviv and land at Ben Gurion Airport I am filled with awe and radical amazement. Upon landing Ruby and I always recite Shehecheyanu. And while that beracha surely voices our thanksgiving for safely returning to Israel again, my mind is conscious that I am equally thanking God that we have arrived at this time in the chronicles of the Jewish people to have a state to which to return. I never, ever take this for granted. When I walk down the long corridor towards the luggage area and pass the sign welcoming me "home," my heart skips more than one beat. Every mile of the flight from Richmond to Israel is more than a measure of distance, it is a measure of history, it is a calculation of destiny. I walk much wherever I go. I feel that my steps on the streets of Jerusalem are paces through the journey of the Jewish narrative and not just my going from place to place. I believe there is a transcendent purpose for the Jewish people in the existence of Medinat Yisrael. This meaning and purpose clutches at my heart even in the most mundane details of daily living in Israel.

 

The Rabbinic imagination holds Eretz Yisrael as the most unique place on earth. They said that ten beautiful places were created in the world, nine of them in Eretz Yisrael. The medieval Jewish cartiologists (mapmakers) drew maps with Jerusalem as the center, as it is called the "bellybutton" of the world. Looking down at the Kineret, the Sea of Galilee at dawn or sunset, the sunset over the Mediterranean from the beach at Tel Aviv or looking at its glow from the city of Tzfat high in the upper Galilean mountains, the quietude of the Kotel at night, captivates me and captures me as no place else.

 

It is not that Israel is perfect. Ben Gurion is quoted to have said that he wanted everything in the Jewish state that everyone else has, Jewish garbage men, Jewish policemen and Jewish ladies of the night, and he got it. There are many imperfections in Medinat Yisrael. But looking at Jews in the rainbow of colors and in the cacophony of languages, in military khakis, M-16's on their shoulders, walking the streets, studying at the universities, shopping in the modern malls, building a country out of marsh and barren mountains - we have wandered and waited, we have suffered and endured for two thousand years, until we could do it in a place of our own, in the place of our beginning, in the place where we were born, four thousand years ago. We are not interlopers on this land. Medinat Yisrael does not exist because of the Holocaust, despite President Obama's remarks in Cairo.

            It exists because it fulfills Judaism, because it fulfills Jewish destiny.

            It is the liberation of the Jewish people.

            It is the restoration and expression of our national being.

 

My feelings and writings develop from my thinking about the existence of the Jewish people. My first encounter of Israel was as a child with a little cellophane bag of sand, purported to have come from Eilat and a fifteen piece puzzle. I treasured it. It was a little bit of Israel from far away and from all the ages of the past. As I have grown and studied, as I have stood on the Golan Heights and on the Temple Mount, I have pondered and meditated on a series of questions:

            Where do Jews belong?

                        Are we supposed to be citizens of the world?

                        Is my being an American an accident?

                        Should we all pack up and move to Israel?

                        What organizes my life? That is a question about me.

                        What am I? What are we?

                        And, "how" am I? "How" are we? Jew? American?

                                    What comes first, last or not at all?

                                    What determines how I live, the dreams that drive my life?

            What language should I speak?

                                    English is my native tongue and Hebrew I acquired.

                        What does having a common language imply?

                                    And what does it mean not to have one?

                        Will Hebrew literacy or lack thereof bind us together or disconnect us?

            How do we see the world and its politics?

                        Specifically, the areas under dispute,

                                    Do you know where they are?

                                    Do you call them "The Territories, "The West Bank."

                                                                 "Judea and Samaria, Yehudah v'Shomron"?

                        What should Israel do with the settlements? Where are they?

                                    Do you really care? What's the implication?

            Who remembers June, 1967, October, 1973, 1956,  besides pre-1948?

            And lastly, who has been to Israel?   For how long?

                               How many here today never intend to even visit,

                                     while going everywhere and anywhere else in the world?

                                What message does that give to your children, grandchildren?

            Where is home?          

I can only share a small amount of the thoughts in my heart.

I.

The liturgy, ritual and inner dynamics of Judaism and the Jewish people always oriented Eastwards. While current synagogues like ours were built to fit into the block, it was almost universal to face Jerusalem. Jewish homes had a piece called a "Mizrach" which means "east", secured to the eastern wall of the house, pointing the way. My grandmother as a child in Poland nailed a piece of matzah at the end of Pesach on the eastern wall of the house that stayed there until erev the next Pesach. Jews faced east with their heads, their hearts and their bodies.  To pray the Machzor that is in your hand, the Siddur the rest of the year, to read Torah, is to affirm the centrality of the land of Israel in and for Jewish existence. We close the Seder and Yom Kippur, not with a memo to our travel agent but with a religious exclamation: L'shanah HaBahah BeYerushalayim. It has always meant: By next year may the Jewish people return home to Eretz Yisrael. Of all the generations that have come before, we alone are the privileged generation to have Medinat Yisrael.

II.

This consciousness, this physical and spiritual posture was based on the vision that Jews outside of Israel are living in the Exile, in Galut. The very use of that word makes clear the belief that Jews belonged, at least predominantly, in the land of Israel. One moment which made me melt, was standing in line to pay for a meal in a town in Emek Hefer, our partnership region, and the cashier, having never met me before yet clearly recognizing my being an American, said softly, "Welcome home." Maybe that is why the singular question so many Israelis ask is: "When are you moving here?" It is asked with sincerity, with love, it is  asked with four millennia of longing, that the Jewish people should be one, should be whole, should live its national life with vibrancy, with normalcy impossible any place else.

 

Yet most Jews in the world choose to remain in the lands of their domicile. Israel is coming to grips with the fact that while it is now the numerical center of the Jewish people, the Galut, the Jews of the Diaspora will endure and need their/our own vibrancy, too. But if we are going to stay here, there are some things I must say:

III. A.

Israel must never be for us "just another place in the world." In a sense world Jewry lives vicariously through Israel. Without it, the Magen David would be missing from the international ensemble of flags. Israel puts us on the world stage. Without it, the Jews of the world would have no defender.//// Remember Entebbe.//// Without it, we would not have our self respect, as Jews. Without it, Jewish culture in all its manifestations would be stilted, like a soul without a body. Without Israel, there would be no magnetic force, no centripetal force to unite people that have such diversity and distance. My list is endless. No matter how we existed pre 1948, we cannot live like that again.

 

Here let me insert from my writing to you during our visit this summer:

 

The last time we went to Yad VaShem was 36 years ago - 1973. It has been totally remade and expanded. The experience here is totally different from the Museum in Washington, D.C. and ours in Richmond. But one memory of our visit stands out sharply and indelibly. Many units of the army, border police and Jerusalem police were on organized and guided tours at Yad Vashem. At a model of a concentration camp stood two soldiers, motionless, expressionless, staring, poring, riveted to the model. Both wore kipot and one had payot, both in the uniform of the army of Medinat Yisrael. Perhaps is was just me, but maybe this was what was going through their minds - the juxtaposition of them, their age, their religious being, their strength, their military service, the existence of the State embodied in them, the soon to be observed Tisha B'Av - remembering the destruction of the 1st and 2nd Jewish Commonwealths resurrected by the blood of those previous to them, and the model of a place of our destruction, that their blood will prevent in the future. I hope they didn't see me staring. I did not want to interrupt or intrude on them. More than the displays -- these soldiers caught me completely.

 

Would we have been chased out of every country,

would we have been burned at the stake,

would we have had to endure centuries of endless, bloody pogroms

            and burned in the furnaces of the Holocaust,

                                    if we had had a State of our own?

That question, above all others, disturbs my life, haunts me,

                        and is answered with each grain of earth of Medinat Yisrael.

I feel that answer in the soles of my feet as I work each step on the soil of Eretz Yisrael.

I see that answer in our daughter's face, a proud citizen of Medinat Yisrael.

III.B.

Without intending to whitewash anything, the Jewish heart in the Galut, in the Diaspora, must be in sympathetic beat with Medinat Yisrael.

            We must be its defenders.

            We must be its spokesmen.

            We are better than you read in the newspapers.

                        Just because Medinat Yisrael exists,

                                    quite clearly does not mean, that the world loves us!

                        Quite the reverse!

                                    The discrimination against Medinat Yisrael is virulent,

                                    in every language, in every electronic format, ceaselessly,

                                    even if you don't read it in the World Street Journal or the

                                    Times-Dispatch.

So let me ask:

How many here have been to Ashdod?

How many here have been to Ashkelon?

How many here have been to Beersheva?

How many here have been to Shderot?

                                                                        I have been to all of them.

And I hope that the office can electronically attach my photos to this sermon when published on the listserv. At the Rabbinical Assembly Convention held in Jerusalem this past February, we traveled to these four cities/towns. I first had to sign a waver releasing them from liability in case I suffered any harm. I visited schools, Conservative synagogues, and an old age center.  As civilian centers, they were the targets of the thousands upon thousands of missiles fired from the civilian population centers inside Gaza.  They aimed at the water treatment centers, the electric plants, the ports, the apartment houses. 12,000 rockets of all varieties. And I saw them! When we came to the Conservative synagogue in Ashkelon, the first thing said to us was not, "hello," was not "we welcome you." It was: "If you hear a siren, this part of the room goes out that door to that shelter and this side of the room goes out that door to that shelter." That was my "Hello" sitting in shul in Ashkelon. Then we went to the lions den. I stood with my colleagues on the hillside of Shderot facing Gaza, as if I was standing on Broad by MCV and looking at Church Hill. And from those residential, civilian housing complexes in Gaza were fired the katyushas, the rockets, the missiles without end upon the civilians, citizens of Israel, their homes, their shops, their schools, their hospitals.

            And the world did not care.             And the world did not stop it.

            And the U.N. did not send any commissions.

            And the world did not condemn Hamas.

It doesn't seem real to me standing here in this shul in Richmond, Virginia. You can't feel the fear of parents with their children in school, their parents in their old age impossible to get to shelters, that your steps are measured in the distance to which bomb shelter you should run, in the sense of isolation that the rest of the world that doesn't care what happens to you, how much you will suffer, and in the words of the Unetaneh Tokef, "who will live and who will die."

 

This doesn't excuse any crime. But the report released this week is a sham, at best. When released on the listserv, I will attach President Shimon Peres' remark that are most eloquent. I don't stand here as an apologist for Israel. I don't stand here as a Rabbi. I stand here as a Jew. It was a terrible war. It was fought under the most difficult conditions. There were mistakes. There was the heat of the battle. The stories of the bravery of Israeli soldiers trying to protect Palestinian civilians will unfortunately never be told until too late, and nobody will read them, and nobody will care. But us. We care. That will have to be enough. I have faith in the fathers and sons, the mothers and daughters who defend their parents, their grandparents, their children, when the world doesn't care again, if Jews live or die. I have faith in Medinat Yisrael, without making excuses, without having to white washing the truth.

III.C.

It is a mitzvah - a commandment - that every Jew must visit Israel, at least as a tourist, if not for longer. Every Jewish child must visit Israel: on youth tours, Birthright, for their junior year of college abroad, or at the Conservative Yeshiva in Jerusalem after they graduate. If I could rewrite the Machzor, if would add it to the list of Al Chets, if we don't. My words are just words. There are no words that substitute for walking the streets, looking into their faces, listening to their voices and seeing the miracle of Medinat Yisrael. The gap between American Jewry and Israel, our lack of knowledge, our disconnect, our disinterest is a sin. Atonement will be made by going there, for which beating our hearts cannot replace.

Conclusion

When I first heard of the Kotel, "The Wall," it was called the "Wailing Wall." That term was coined by the British who translated it from the Arabic. They mistook our praying on Shabbat eve, with our kisses upon the ancient stones, the place of our glory, as cries of anguish, when it was really tears of adoration and of love for our holiest site. In all our history we never called it "The Wailing Wall." It was just "HaKotel" or "HaKotel HaMa'arvi," "The Western Wall." I believe that if God had not watched over us to preserve at least a saving remnant, we would still be weeping. The Guardian of Israel has saved us, as we have joined in saving ourselves.  The Kotel is a place of joy. I wrote about the soldiers pledging their allegiance to serve, protect and defend Medinat Yisrael, in the courtyard before it. When Ruby and I watched them I did my best to hide my tears of pride, to suppress my feeling that our entire history was fulfilled, and the absolute faith, that from this land, with whatever borders will ever be drawn, we will never leave again. I share these feelings, these insights, my imploring you to go to Israel, from the deepest recesses of my heart. May God protect and shelter the defenders of Israel and our State.                                      May Gilad Shalit return home soon.

                                                May we love Medinat Yisrael as we love life itself.   Amen.     

What Do You Do When You Go To A Cemetery?

What Do You Do When You Go To A Cemetery?

Yizkor - Yom Kippur - 5770

September 28th, 2009

Rabbi Gary S. Creditor

 

What do you do when you go to a cemetery? Especially when it isn't an unveiling and I'm not there to conduct a service. What do you do?

 

My earliest memories are of going to Mt. Hebron Cemetery in Flushing, Queens, New York where my maternal grandfather, Abraham Liebhoff is buried. We would pick up my grandmother in Boro Park, Brooklyn and drive to Queens, across the highway from the 1964/1965 World's Fair. We used to joke that he had the best seat in the house. We walked the short distance from the road. First, my parents and grandmother would 'inspect the stone.' Nothing ever changed. Then my father would pull any weeds growing in the bed of ivy. My brother and I just stood and watched. Then my brother and I were prompted to talk about what had happened in our lives since we were last there. My parents would ask us about this and that. It was as if my grandfather was listening in. It would be a long time until I learned a relevant Talmudic teaching. God forbid if we left out any details. In the early years, when there were still empty plots, my parents and grandmother would discuss if they knew those recently buried. We didn't say any prayers. Just stood there. By some unwritten code, they decided that it was time to leave. My father always kept a bag of rocks from the backyard in the trunk and we would take a stone and put it on the top of the monument. I always wondered what happened to the ones we had put there the last time. That's a subject for another sermon. Then we walked back to the car.

 

It was later that I learned that the mitzvah we were fulfilling has a distinct name: kever avot. It is a mitzvah enfolded in a minhag, custom, to do this not only before the Yom Tov season but also at yahrtzeit and before most important events in one's life. Before I left for Israel in 1968 and 1973, before Ruby and I were married, and before Tzeira left for Israel in 2007 I visited the graves of my grandparents, my paternal great grandparents, my father, Ruby's mother and grandparents, my uncle and other family members. After getting to New York, it is a full day's drive from cemetery to cemetery to 'do' kever avot.

 

At all but one, we follow the family pattern that I learned at my grandfather's grave. I sometimes even remember to bring stones from Richmond to New York.  I now include some prayers, Psalm 23, and El Moleh for each one. All their Hebrew names are engraved so I can say it easily. 'Doing' kever avot for my father is, eighteen years after his death, still not easy. After relating all the important events of my life since I stood at his grave last, I cry. I don't do it at the other graves, but at my father's grave I cry. As I stand there and think of the special moments in my life: when I was a little boy; when I assumed my student pulpit; of the births, brit milah and naming of Menachem, Yonina and Tzeira, I see every moment. When I think of his death at the age of 67, and all that he missed since then, my neshama is provoked to endless tears.

 

My father is not the youngest person I ever buried. My mother-in-law was younger. Perhaps, besides our own bond as father and son, and that I missed having my father at my side for so many special moments in my life, thinking of the prematuredness of his death brings me to recall so many of the young people for whom I have officiated and the injustice of all their early deaths, and further provokes my tears. I miss my father dearly. Through the years of my Rabbinate I particularly miss and am pained by those who died, in the words of the Unetaneh Tokef, "before their days." I don't know how we are supposed to calculate "in their time," but I can certainly calculate when it is too soon. It is difficult for the religious person who accepts the belief in a good and just God as a fundamental axiom of a life of faith, to stand before the 'early' graves. I have no words to assuage the pain, and so I cry. It expresses all the feelings and all the emotions for which I have no words, that for which words can do no justice.

 

Maybe tears are meant to be therapeutic. Not only do they literally wash my eyes, trying not to rub them red, but they figuratively 'wash my soul.' The act of crying releases my pent up feelings of anger, of disappointment, of longing. My internal compass fluctuates wildly and then, after the tears, settles down in a steady place. When Ted Kennedy died and was buried 100 feet from Bobby and 200 feet from John I was transported back to the days of their deaths, and felt again the pain that I remember from my youth. I could not restrain the tears. Not so much because of Ted Kennedy, but his death was the doorway to events of yesteryear. I felt that ache when I stood before the eternal flame on Arlington Cemetery. There is something unresolved, unfinished, imperfect, unacceptable, and there is nothing that I can do to balance history, to right the wrong, or rewrite the script. Tears are the only tool in my human arsenal.

 

Tears and stories. Stories can express ideas better that philosophical tracts. Stories can allow our imaginations to roam; they can propose responses to our existential dilemma that are not bound by fact or logic. Stories help me cope with life. I share this with you.

 

The story is by Shloyme-Znavel Rapaport, better known as S. Ansky. It is entitled:

 "Dos Lebn fun a mentsh," - "A Person's Life."

 

When the time comes for a person to be born, God calls the angel named Night and says, "A person is going to be formed from such and such a drop. Bring the drop to the Throne of Glory."

 

The angel brings the drop to the Throne of Glory, and God decides whether the person will be male or female, weak or strong, rich or poor, beautiful or ugly. But God doesn't decide whether the person will be good or bad.

 

Then God calls the angel in charge of souls and says, "Hurry and bring me such and such a soul from the great storehouse."

 

The angel brings the soul to the Throne of Glory, and God says, "Soul! Go into this drop. This will be your home as long as this person lives."

 

The soul says, "Lord of all worlds. I am very satisfied here. Please don't bring me into this drop. I want to stay where I am."

 

And God answers, "The drop that I am bringing you into is also an endless world. And I created you for this very drop."

 

The soul cries, and all the other souls and the angels cry, too. But God forces the soul to go into the drop. Then He calls the angel named Night and commands him to return the drop to the womb of the mother, and that is the moment when the baby begins to be formed.

 

God gives the unborn infant two guardians, and angel of light and an angel of sadness.

 

Every day they carry the unborn infant with them and show it all the joy and suffering in the world. And every night they light a candle over the unborn infants' head. They teach it the entire Torah and tell it all the secrets of creation. And when the nine months are completed, the angel named Night comes and says, "Do you know me?"

 

"I know you. Why have you come?"

 

The angel says, "It is time for you to be born. You have to go into the world of human beings."

 

And the unborn infant says, "I am very satisfied here. Please don't take me into the world of people. I want to stay here."

 

The angel answers, "The world that I am taking you into is a world of life and good actions. God created you for this very world."

 

The unborn infant cries, and all the other unborn infants and the angels cry, too. But God calls the angel named Night and he extinguishes the candle. Then comes Purah, the angel of forgetfulness and as if he were flicking a stone off his thumb with his forefinger taps the unborn infant just over the lips, and it immediately forgets everything it saw and heard. It forgets the Torah that it was taught and all the secrets of creation. But an echo of all that it saw and learned stays with it in the deep stronghold of its heart.

 

Then the person is born and passes through seven worlds.

 

In the first world, the person is like anew emperor, greeted with joy and gifts.

 

In the second world, the person is like a goat who feeds in the muck at the riverside; jumping for joy, without a care, and eating grass that he didn't plant.

 

In the third world the person is like a young colt who feels free and happy. Nothing holds him back.

In the fourth world the person is like a fast horse that trots easily pulling a wagon behind him. He doesn't feel the weight of the people in the wagon.

 

In the fifth world the person is like a donkey heaped with burdens. He moves slowly and is whipped by his driver.

 

In the sixth world, the person is like a dog that drags off everything he can get and barks at everyone who comes near him.

 

In the seventh world the person is like a monkey, human in appearance, but not quite a human being. He loses his good sense, everyone laughs at him and no one obeys him.

 

Then comes the time to die. The angel named Night comes to the person again and says, "Do you know me?"

 

"I know you. Why did you come?"

 

"I came to take you away from this world."

 

The person doesn't want to leave the world and says, "You took me away from two worlds against my will. I want to stay in this one."

 

And the person cries bitterly, but no one living hears him because every heart would break if they did. Only the rooster that crows at night hears the person's cries and answers.

 

And the angel named Night says to the person, "You were created against your will, you lived against your will, and now against your will you have to die and give a reckoning to the King enthroned above kings of kings, blessed be His Name."

 

And the angel takes the person's soul.

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This story is instructional and even inspirational.

We don't ask to be born and we don't ask to die. God is there from before the beginning. God is there after the end. It is God who sent us to this world and it is God who summons us back to Him. Between beginning and end our decisions and our deeds are in our hands. We cried not wanting to enter this world. We cry not wanting to leave it. And the angels of heaven cry with us. Perhaps when I cry at my father's grave, I am not crying alone. Maybe his neshama and the angels are crying with me too. And even if all the tears in heaven and on earth cannot change history, I feel better believing that I am not alone. I feel better having released the pent up emotions, having opened my heart. Perhaps even God cries with us. It is our tears that reveal our deepest humanity as we yearn for eternity.

 

So what do you do when you go to a cemetery? This is what I do and why I do it. But it is a question that each of you can answer with your own personal story. We remember. We pray. We put rocks. We cry. Yet there is another minhag when we visit a cemetery. As we leave we pull a few strands of grass and toss it away to remind us of the verse that our lives are as grass that exist briefly. But in this brief lifespan, as measured by the stars, as measured by God, we find the loves of our lives and perform beautiful mitzvot and exquisite deeds. Between the two eternities of past and future, we live purposeful and meaningful lives within the unknown but allotted span. As the Psalmist says, "Hazorim b'demah, b'rinah yiktzoru." "Those who sow with tears, will reap with joy."

 

May we know fewer tears and greater joy.

May we cry with those who cry.

May we give them our shoulders and they share theirs with us.

May we find peace and tranquility.                                                                Amen.

Recalibrating Your GPS

Recalibrating Your GPS

Kol Nidrei 5770

September 27th, 2009

Rabbi Gary S. Creditor

 

[There are many ways I prepare for these Yamim Noraim. Indeed I begin as soon as we finish, listening, reading, watching, for ideas, subjects, events, that are worthy as topics for these days. I also listen to my colleagues, to the sermon seminars from my Rabbinic affiliations. One of them is the Ziegler School of Rabbinic Studies in Los Angeles. They shared a discussion between Rabbis Brad Artson, Ed Feinstein and David Wolpe. I have entitled my distillation of their conversation; "Recalibrating Your GPS."]

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In her search for a position, last August Ruby and I attended the job fair that was held in Chesterfield County. I looked around the huge room that was entirely filled. I could not fathom their emotions, their mindset, their heart pangs as they searched each booth. This year the drastic diminishment number of jobs and economic climate has affected many here, our friends and even our children. There are many questions to ask of ourselves:

            How do we look at ourselves?

            How do we look at life?

            What is the gauge of our being a success or a failure?

            What do we learn about life in times like this?

            And what do we learn about ourselves?

Rabbi Yochanan is quoted in the Talmud to say that while our eyes have light and dark parts, we only see through the dark part of our eye. He teaches us that we grow through the dark parts. We can continue, we must grow through dark days of our lives.

            How do we gauge our self worth?

Everyone at the job fair brought their resumes. Standing before God, standing before the mirror, how would we write your personal resumes?

            Does it only include professional accolades, certified skills and financial gains?

            What else have we achieved in life?

            Do we have a good and loving spouse or partner?

            Have we raised good and decent children?

            Do we have friends and are we a friend to stand with people, give a supporting shoulder, and tender heart and open hand in times of trial and tribulation?

            Do we give of ourselves as volunteers?

This a unique day in the Jewish calendar, dedicated to taking stock of ourselves and what have we learned in the year gone by. What can we learn for the year ahead? Three lessons:

 

I.

 

We learn that we don't know how life will play out.

Rav Saadya Gaon, head of the Babylonian Talmudic academy in the 800's was fired from his position. He then wrote a famous book that still influences Jewish thought and is still read. He was then rehired, and never heard from again. Who knew? Who could guess? Which was a catastrophe for Saadya Gaon? Which was his triumph? Which lasted? Which didn't? Who could predict?  There was no way to know.

Dr. Abraham Heschel wrote a beautiful essay in which he wrote that God speaks slowly one syllable at a time, and then we can only read the sentence backwards, at the end. We, I want to feel, to know, that we, I are not abandoned to the "hand of fate." We, I want to believe that somehow there is some purposeful, meaningful direction to my life, and to believe that God is part of it. In his poetic way, Dr. Heschel teaches us that only at the end of the journey, looking backwards, can our pilgrimage through life be understood and God's hand discerned. As we currently stand at a given trying moment, it is hard to see.

 

One of my famous songwriters, whom I have quoted before, in one of his earliest albums, has a perfect song. Garth Brooks wrote "Unanswered Prayers." In the song, he and his wife meet his 'old high school flame.'

She was the one that I'd wanted for all times
And each night I'd spend prayin' that God would make her mine
And if he'd only grant me this wish I wished back then
I'd never ask for anything again

However, life did not work out that way. Now he is happily married and has no commonality with the woman he so desired. At the beginning, he was awfully disappointed that God did not grant him his wish. Maybe it even led him to doubt that God heard him, that God cared, that God existed. Only looking backwards, afterwards, he could sing:

 

Sometimes I thank God for unanswered prayers
Remember when your talkin to the man upstairs
That just because He may not answer doesn't mean He don't care
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.

As they parted, and he could reflect at the path already traveled, he had a different comprehension of the journey past:


She wasn't quite the angel that I remembered in my dreams
And i could tell that time had changed me
In her eyes too it seemed
We tried to talk about the old days
There wasn't much we could recall
I guess the Lord knows what he's doin' after all.

And as she walked away and I looked at my wife
And then and there I thanked the good Lord
For the gifts in my life
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Some of God's greatest gifts are all too often unanswered...
Some of God's greatest gifts are unanswered prayers.

 

Can we look at ourselves, at the vicissitudes, the trials, the tribulations, see where we were and where we are, and see how we grew, how we surmounted, how we triumphed, while when standing in the midst of it all, we could never have imagined where we'd go?

 

The best example of this in the Torah is the story of Joseph. Every time he is high, it is the prelude for his denouement. And every time he is brought low, it is the prelude for his ascent. Could Joseph thrown in the pit have imagined he would become viceroy of Egypt? Could Potiphar's right hand man ever imagine that he would be in Pharaoh's jail? Could Pharaoh's right hand man ever imagine that his grandchildren would be enslaved? Could his great-grandchildren ever dream of redemption?

 

My two texts illustrate my point: We don't know how life will play out. But we have to play our part. Like Joseph, like the song, we don't despair, we don't turn inward, we don't give up hope. Perhaps later on, when we can look backwards, we will see God in our journey. Perhaps we will appreciate our inner growth and personal success.

 

II.

 

Life is fragile, life is finite, therefore do the most we can with the days we have. While that sounds obvious, it is truism that is well worth reminding ourselves. We can be oblivious to the simplest truths. Life smacks us in the face, "klopts us en hartz."  Therefore, we need to live life deliberately. We need to make life "an act of will." Again, I turn to Dr. Heschel for insight. He wrote, in the book "The Sabbath" that we, you and I are artists. Our lives are our masterpieces. We stand before the easel with its canvas spread before us. We get to choose the texture of the painting. We get to select the colors and the hues. We pick up the paintbrush, thick or thin, natural hairs or synthetic. We get to paint the masterpiece. And whether we are realists or surrealists, whether it hangs in a museum or the basement, it is our masterpiece. It is what we made out of life. We need to put life together as carefully as we can, because there is an unknown number to our days.

 

A Hassidic tale is told that the Rebbe asks his talmidim, his students: What is the most important moment in Jewish history? They ponder and offer every possible answer. The Rebbe rejects them all. He says the answer is: Now. Now, the moment in which we live, when we can make everything or anything happen, that is the most important moment. The challenge is keep that thought before us daily and use our time purposefully as we paint the pictures of our lives.

 

III.

 

Yom Kippur challenges us to shape our lives.  Perhaps for the first time in our lives we all realize that there are real limitations. I am fond to say what I did in my first lifetime and what I will do in the next, but I do know that I only get this one. I can't be all the different things I dreamed. I love the Star Trek scene in which two ships Enterprise coexist, two realities exist simultaneously. But I know that I only get to live in one reality, which is finite. And thus we make choices, and each choice excludes other options. As we open one door, we close others. The act of choosing shapes us. We can't be everything, have everything, do everything, live everywhere. How and what we choose defines us and gives us our character. That is in our control. Accepting our mortality with that knowledge prodding us forward is the essence of being an adult.

 

On Yom Kippur we have to grapple with ourselves. We have to decide:

            What is it realistic to expect from ourselves;

            What dreams can I have and reach for?

            Which dreams are so impossible that reaching for them will hurt and not help?

            Will I have the courage to persevere and persist?

            Can I forgive myself for that which I cannot do?

            Can I commend myself for that which I have achieved?

            Can I find the wisdom to distinguish between the two?

 

In 1993, Garth Brooks released the following song that is my text, The River.

 

You know a dream is like a river
Ever changin' as it flows
And a dreamer's just a vessel
That must follow where it goes
Trying to learn from what's behind you
And never knowing what's in store
Makes each day a constant battle
Just to stay between the shores...and

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

Too many times we stand aside
And let the waters slip away
'Til what we put off 'til tomorrow
Has now become today
So don't you sit upon the shoreline
And say you're satisfied
Choose to chance the rapids
And dare to dance the tide...yes

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

There's bound to be rough waters
And I know I'll take some falls
But with the good Lord as my captain
I can make it through them all...yes

I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
Like a bird upon the wind
These waters are my sky
I'll never reach my destination
If I never try
So I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry

Yes, I will sail my vessel
'Til the river runs dry
'Til the river runs dry

Conclusion

 

When I travel, I drive by memory and maps. Ruby bought a GPS. It is an interesting gadget. I really enjoy disregarding its instructions. I know better. I've been down this road before. I will not obediently follow its disembodied voice, male or female. And for all those who have a GPS you know that when you do something different, you know what it says: Recalibrating. I love to make the GPS say that: Recalibrating. It has to come up with a new way. That is what we have to do with our lives. Find a new path. Figure it out differently. Reject the tyranny of GPS and be brave to go off the map.

 

That is what Yom Kippur urges us to do: take the sum total of who we are, what we have become, the limitations of which we are aware, our abilities and our frailties, never give up, never let down, never stop sailing and recalibrate.

 

My prayer, next Kol Nidrei, may we assemble here again in good health, accepting into our hearts the unanswered prayers, sailing the vessels of our lives on endless rivers, and finding in our hearts, souls and faith a true guidance for good and happy lives. Amen.